Dear Children

To all the young people who experience sadness, worry, or fear, this is for you.

Dear Children:

Are you sometimes sad? Worried? Afraid?

You are not broken or disorderd. You are the sensitive souls who feel deeply, see everything, and pay attention to your environment and others in it. This makes you not only incredibly special, but also essential to your friends, family, community, and world.

The question isn’t, how do you stop feeling? The question is, how can you direct these sensitivities in ways that help you feel productive, worthy, and contribute to the world?

Maybe you’re asking, what’s wrong with me? If so, let me tell you as a fellow human on this planet, nothing is wrong with you. You are right where you need to be right now. Whatever you’re feeling is inviting you to more. More, more, more. And asking for more always comes with disquiet, uncertainty, and often sadness or worry.

But this is where you are! You are breaking open to something new. You are being called simultaneously to intimate heart-centeredness and also Christ-inspired connection to people, things, ideas, and energies beyond your immediate ability to actually see them. They are there, though, no doubt. That you are feeling the way you are means you are discerning all that is calling you.

You are strong. You are always connected to Love and God. We see you. We are here for you. And we can’t wait to watch you burst forth into yourself. Again and again and again.

Do I Have Inner Knowing?

Recently, an acquaintance asked our group of coaches and counselors this question: How would we respond to a client who says she doesn’t believe she has “inner knowing?”

This is a good question. Perhaps one of the most important questions.

Why? It’s significant, because inner knowing, or what we might call intuition, an inner voice, or even a sense of our consciousness, is evidence or affirmation of our connection to a greater energy–God, Source, the Divine, however you language it. This client is hardly alone. Many of us question whether we are “gifted” with this wisdom. The reasons are painfully obvious.

We live in a society, culture, world, that often go to great lengths to deny our inner knowing. They tell us all that exists, all that matters, is what our five senses can detect. We learn at an early age to set goals and intentions so that we might achieve the outward appearance of success: financial wealth, lots of stuff, expensive schools, even celebrity and fame. This, we are instructed, is what’s most important. This is what will declare to the world that we are significant. That we matter. And, of course, it will ensure that above all we are happy. Right?

Well, in the words of Brad Pitt in Fight Club, “How’s that working out for you?” Not so well, I expect, mostly because it’s not true. Even those, and perhaps especially those, who have material wealth and success admit none of this ensures happiness and in fact pales in comparison to a much greater attainment: acknowledging, trusting, believing in our true selves, our inner knowing. Our ultimate calling is not to look and seek without; it is to witness and align with our wisdom, which is our connection to God, Source, the Divine. Without this consciousness and depth of understanding, all else is ultimately folly. Sure, we might achieve things and goals; we might even deem ourselves satisfied and happy. But all of this will be like the mere shadows of things, as they are for the prisoners in Plato’s The Cave. They will never be the truest and highest things, which the Good, the wise, the deepest knowing can provide.

Here is the answer (and more) I offered in response to the question above:

You can compassionately and graciously affirm for her that we all have inner knowing; it is inherent to the human experience. The question isn’t, “Do I have it;” the question is, “To what extent do I realize or not realize/experience it, why or why not, and how do I more effectively practice touching this Divine spark in myself?”

Contemplation, reflection, and meditation are excellent ways to touch this awareness, but if she’s not ready for this, if it’s too early in her journey, there are other ways, too. Suggest taking walks in nature, noticing when she experiences something beautiful or joyful. This could be an image, a person, a thought, a piece of music, something delicious she’s eating. Anything that sparks gratitude and joy and offers a momentary high-vibration feeling. Let her know she can use these moments as touchstones and affirmations that her inner knowing is real and present within her.

Inner knowing isn’t bestowed on us; it emanates from us, from the deepest parts of ourselves, ever connected to God. So if we haven’t yet felt that, sometimes witnessing something inspiring can light that spark and allow us to understand how the knowing flows to and through us. Goodness, Divinity, and the inspired energy of the Holy Spirit are constantly in motion around and in us. When we are conscious of our inner knowing, we are acknowledging the presence of this energy, which awakens us to the present moment and affirms our connection to ourselves and all that is Unified Consciousness. Don’t worry if you feel this part of you is still small or even if you sometimes doubt it. For taking time to witness it, sit with it, attend to it, will nourish this knowing, invite you to expand until you trust in and rely on its wisdom. Your knowing is already complete, because it is eternal, and you are part of this eternity. It is waiting for you to align with it more consistently so that you might experience it in its inherent glory.

A Rampage For Refocus

You’ve been barking up the wrong tree for quite a long time. It’s time for you to start being nicer to yourself and daydreaming more and being happier about things and giving yourself more leeway and going to more places where you feel good and finding more vistas where you can do more daydreaming and more just giving yourself the opportunity to let your mind be still while your vibration rises so that then you can receive the impulse to put yourself at the right place at the right time to find the things that you are looking for. Abraham Hicks

This rampage is typically full and comprehensive and breathless. It is meant to be. Feel how the energy shifts in the very first sentence, turning us from unwanted towards what is better, preferred, and then optimal.

Refocusing and moving our energy is about changing our perspective. Ultimately, the only thing we need to know is that we can. The only question we need to ask ourselves is, Am I willing to try?

When You Hear the Beep…

Yesterday, Sean was at CHOP for some tests he is required to undergo every three months. One of his appointments was with audiology. The technician, Travis, directed Sean and me to a soundproof room, sat Sean in a chair before a large window, and fitted him with headphones. I sat off to the side behind him. Travis then closed the heavy door and sat at the desk on the other side of the window, facing Sean, from which he played a variety of sounds and words.

For most of the test, Sean was to repeat the words he heard. It was the beginning of the test, though, that caught my attention. Instead of instructing Sean to raise his hand every time he heard a sound, Travis advised, “When you hear the beep, say, ‘Heard it!'” So, for the next few minutes, I watched and listened as all kinds of beeps moved through Sean’s headphones, he loudly proclaimed this response, and Travis offered many a cheerful thumbs-up.

I realized, observing this otherwise simple scene in a room so quiet I could hear my heartbeat, that the relationship between Travis, my son, the beeps, and Sean’s responses was strikingly similar to a more personal relationship: our awareness of, and intimacy with, Source.

When we are connected with Spirit in its purest, most loving form, when we are aligned and in flow, even for a moment, it is as though we are wearing special headphones. We become acutely aware of the energy and information passing through them, through the veil of ego-based projection and low vibrations, to the deepest interior of our true selves. We experience pristine clarity. We consciously, attentively listen. We are alert and attuned and aware. We are in the receiving mode of “pure positive energy” (Abraham).

How can we more frequently and fully cultivate this connection? Simply put, by paying attention to it. What if we decide to become more engaged with this relationship, this process, and respond in a similar way Sean was advised? As we feel the warm sunshine on our face during a walk, “Heard it!” As we cuddle our dog, “Heard it!” As we feel the tenderness of our child’s small hand in ours, “Heard it!” As we listen to a moving piece of music, “Heard it!” Responding this way, out loud or in our hearts, we are affirming that we are in the receiving mode. We are declaring our connection to the Source energy that is simultaneously always calling, and living in, us.

The more often we choose to consciously respond in this way, the more accustomed to listening we become. This is law, after all. This is Law of Attraction and Alignment in their purest forms. What’s more, as we open ever wider and deeper to this energy, we also then become more alert and engaged with Source, expecting to hear, see, and feel the signs and information that surround us in every moment.

Unlike the few minutes of beeps passing through Sean’s headphones, the Grace that invites our attention and response is always calling us. She is constantly speaking, beckoning. The only question is, are we engaged and listening?

Will you put on your headphones today? When you do, get still, create the spaciousness of the soundproof room in your soul, and listen for the beep. Never fear; it will come. And when it does, whether in a whisper or a resounding clang, pronounce, “Heard it!” Source will hear you, too, and as Travis did with Sean, She will offer you an affirming thumbs-up.