Recently, an acquaintance asked our group of coaches and counselors this question: How would we respond to a client who says she doesn’t believe she has “inner knowing?”
This is a good question. Perhaps one of the most important questions.
Why? It’s significant, because inner knowing, or what we might call intuition, an inner voice, or even a sense of our consciousness, is evidence or affirmation of our connection to a greater energy–God, Source, the Divine, however you language it. This client is hardly alone. Many of us question whether we are “gifted” with this wisdom. The reasons are painfully obvious.
We live in a society, culture, world, that often go to great lengths to deny our inner knowing. They tell us all that exists, all that matters, is what our five senses can detect. We learn at an early age to set goals and intentions so that we might achieve the outward appearance of success: financial wealth, lots of stuff, expensive schools, even celebrity and fame. This, we are instructed, is what’s most important. This is what will declare to the world that we are significant. That we matter. And, of course, it will ensure that above all we are happy. Right?
Well, in the words of Brad Pitt in Fight Club, “How’s that working out for you?” Not so well, I expect, mostly because it’s not true. Even those, and perhaps especially those, who have material wealth and success admit none of this ensures happiness and in fact pales in comparison to a much greater attainment: acknowledging, trusting, believing in our true selves, our inner knowing. Our ultimate calling is not to look and seek without; it is to witness and align with our wisdom, which is our connection to God, Source, the Divine. Without this consciousness and depth of understanding, all else is ultimately folly. Sure, we might achieve things and goals; we might even deem ourselves satisfied and happy. But all of this will be like the mere shadows of things, as they are for the prisoners in Plato’s The Cave. They will never be the truest and highest things, which the Good, the wise, the deepest knowing can provide.
Here is the answer (and more) I offered in response to the question above:
You can compassionately and graciously affirm for her that we all have inner knowing; it is inherent to the human experience. The question isn’t, “Do I have it;” the question is, “To what extent do I realize or not realize/experience it, why or why not, and how do I more effectively practice touching this Divine spark in myself?”
Contemplation, reflection, and meditation are excellent ways to touch this awareness, but if she’s not ready for this, if it’s too early in her journey, there are other ways, too. Suggest taking walks in nature, noticing when she experiences something beautiful or joyful. This could be an image, a person, a thought, a piece of music, something delicious she’s eating. Anything that sparks gratitude and joy and offers a momentary high-vibration feeling. Let her know she can use these moments as touchstones and affirmations that her inner knowing is real and present within her.
Inner knowing isn’t bestowed on us; it emanates from us, from the deepest parts of ourselves. So if we haven’t yet felt that, sometimes witnessing something inspiring can light that spark and allow us to understand how the knowing flows to and through us. Goodness, Divinity, Source energy are constantly in motion around and in us. When we are conscious of our inner knowing, we are acknowledging the presence of this energy, which awakens us to the present moment and affirms our connection to ourselves and all that is Unified Consciousness. Don’t worry if you feel this part of you is still small or even if you sometimes doubt it. For taking time to witness it, sit with it, attend to it, will nourish this knowing, invite you to expand until you trust in and rely on its wisdom. Your knowing is already complete, because it is eternal, and you are part of this eternity. It is waiting for you to align with it more consistently so that you might experience it in its inherent glory.